Yahoo Finance posted an article from The New York Times about the Kindle Fire and the overwhelming number of complaints people who buy it have. So much so that many of them are actually returning the device.
You can read the article here, but the most interesting thing about this article to me is one of the complaints Amazon has been getting is,
“There is no privacy on the device; a spouse or child who picks it up will instantly know everything you have been doing”
I kind of understand the child thing, sort of… but if you’re complaining about a product because you’re unable to hide things from your spouse, you have some bigger problems to deal with.
Seriously though, maybe I’m just naive, but I can’t think of anything that I need to hide from my wife, let alone anything that would cause me to return a product because of that.
What about you, is there anything that you think is ok to keep from your spouse?
I was thinking about a conversation I overheard today while I was at Borders Bookstore. I really wasn’t meaning to eavesdrop on the two ladies sitting next to me, but it was hard not to since they were sitting at the table almost touching mine.
The conversation was between two ladies who seemed to be in there mid to late 40’s. These two women were talking about the divorce one of them was in the middle of. A messy, painful divorce between two people who had been married a little over 25 years. (I’m not sure how long exactly, but she kept using the term “25 year plus marriage.”)
The part about this conversation that got my attention was something the divorcee said to her friend. She said, “We’ve been arguing about this since we were dating. We just can’t take it anymore.”
WHAT!?! REALLY?!? The reason behind this divorce was an issue that went unresolved for over 25 years! Since before they were married!?! It’s almost hard for me to believe. This couple, who I’m sure at one point was madly in love with each other, let something negative in their relationship fester for over 25 years. And it grew to the point of ripping their marriage apart.
I’ve been thinking about this conversation all evening and here’s a few thoughts that I had…
1) Marriage is NOT the answer.
If you’re single, dating or maybe your engaged and planning a wedding please listen to me. If there is a problem in your relationship, an issue that just won’t get resolved, GETTING MARRIED WON’T MAKE THE PROBLEM GO AWAY. Please, before going one step further in your plans or your relationship, you need to have the hard conversation, get everything on the table and work it out. And if you can’t, if you just can’t work it out on your own or you can’t find any Godly person to walk and pray you through it. DON’T GET MARRIED! Period.
2) If you’re already married, QUITTING IS NOT THE ANSWER.
I believe marriage is a covenant. A covenant not just between a husband and wife, but between a Husband, a Wife and God. Your will power to stay and fight, backed by God’s divine power, CAN and WILL restore ANYTHING. Get that thing your dealing with out in the open. Expose it to the Light. Get people around you who will pray for you and with you. FIGHT.
3) Anything left to itself will fester and DIE. YOU CAN’T IGNORE THE PROBLEM!
I could take 100 million dollars and set out to build the greatest house that money can buy. I could buy the best land, used the best material, hired the top architects, most creative landscapers and the most skilled builders, and I could build a spectacular house. But then, if I took that finished house, locked all the doors and windows, didn’t allow anyone to move in, and ignored it for 10, 20 or 50 years, eventually the wood would rot, the landscaping would grow out of control, the paint would peal, the foundation would crack and the house would eventually collapse. True of a house, true of a person and true of a marriage. We can’t allow negative issues to go unresolved in our lives. God is the redeemer. Not just of our lives, but of everything, including your marriage. A problem ignored will not go away, it will grow and overtime it WILL hurt you and possibly destroy you.
These were just a few of the thoughts I had while thinking about this conversation that I heard in the bookstore, and I thought I would share them with you. I’d love to hear your thoughts on the subject.
I’m sad for that couple. I’m praying for them. I hope that God does a miracle in their marriage, and in yours.
I’ve heard from a lot of the men out there who saw this post and have said to me, “Man, that practically saved my marriage, I so glad to know to ‘don’t’ do things.” That’s what I’m here for, for you to glean from the extensive knowledge that I have. ( After all, I am a semi-novice in at most 2 subjects)
So that being said, and in the same vein of advice to men for what you can do to make your marriages better, I just wanted to share this video from Gary Smalley and a couple of other marriage experts, so that you could use this resource, we might even call it a tool, to improve your marriage.
Sit down, tune out all distractions, get a pad of paper and a pen, and soak it in.
July 22, 2009 in
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People are always asking me about being married. I hear things all the time like, “You guys look so happy!”, “How long have you been married?”, “What is your secret”,”How does she put up with you?”
I will be married to my beautiful wife Lindsay for 8 years this October. It’s hard to believe that it has been that long. I can’t imagine my life without her. She is incredible. But it hasn’t always been easy. Anyone who has been married for awhile will tell you that a good marriage doesn’t just happen, it takes hard work.
Men, I know what you’re thinking. You’re thinking, “I want to have a great marriage, I’m willing to do whatever it takes… I just don’t know where to start.” Well, that’s why I’m here. Let me let you in on a little secret that has helped me create a better marriage for Lindsay and I.
I want you to watch this video and take notes… this very well could be the answer you’ve been looking for. Remember, “A happy wife means a happy life”
July 22, 2009 in
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